Title: Coping With the Death of a Pet
Author: Mike Vines
When most of us think about the death of a friend we think
about someone that we worked with, that we went to school with,
or became acquainted with in some way. In short, we think about
our human friends who have passed on. Dealing with the death of
the people you know and love is difficult, but so to is the loss
of a pet. Many people don't realize that the loss of a pet can
be as painful as the loss of a friend or family member. It
sounds silly to those that do not have the love of that special
dog, cat, bird, ferret, or another furry animal, but the love
that you share with these animals is unlike the love that you
will ever share with a human, making the loss of our animals
difficult.
Don't Play Down Your Pain
If your pet has just passed away you'll be feeling immense
grief, so don't play down your pain. A lot of people are
hesitant to share with their friends and family members exactly
how much they are hurting as their pet ages, gets sick, and
dies. You need to express these feelings to those that share the
love of your animal, or even those that are just good listeners.
This is a difficult time, just like it would be if you had lost
a person who was close to you.
Perhaps what makes dealing with the death of a furry friend
more difficult is that our time with animals is relatively
short. The average dog lives just 10 to 12 years, a mere
acquaintance in a human life. Many have said that the reason
that we live so long is because it takes us at least one
lifetime to learn how to love unconditionally. Animals don't
have to live that long because they are born knowing trust and
love and are here to teach us.
If you have had to make the difficult choice to put your pet to
sleep, this can create a whole new level of grief. Here is your
best friend and they need your help and the only thing that you
can do for them is make them comfortable while they pass on.
This is difficult, but you should know as a pet owner you have
made the selfless decision to put your pet out of their misery
before it got really bad. Don't allow yourself to feel guilty
for doing this, as it is often the best and only choice for a
humane pet owner.
When dealing with the loss of an animal you will likely go
through the same grief process as you do when you grieve for a
human being. You may feel shocked, sadness, anger, and then
slowly you'll come to accept it. Someday in the future when you
have gotten over the worst of the pain you will consider getting
a new pet. There is nothing like the love our animals give us,
and for pet owners it is often the desire for that unconditional
love which has them going back for more, even after losing one
of their beloved furry friends.
About The Author: Mike Vines, in association with
http://GriefManagem
Forums, seeks to provide a safe and congenial home to those
suffering from grief, along with the hope and understanding from
a community of concerned individuals willing to share their own
experiences to help others through the difficulties of life.
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